You’re a little too cautious.
Others might tell you that a girl is clearly flirting with you, but you’d rather not assume. The last thing you want is to seem like you’re desperate or creepy, after all.
But, while caution is indeed a good thing… too much of it can make some women give up on you (and you wonder why you’re still single!)
So to help you along, I’ve got 30 subtle and obvious flirting signs so you won’t be scared to flirt back.
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30 Flirting Signs from A Woman (Subtle & Obvious)
1. She Does You Favors
Whether she’s your classmate offering you her notes, a colleague helping you at work, or a barista giving you an extra shot of coffee, you can tell when a girl likes you if she does you little favors.
Something that will take this from subtle to especially obvious is that if you notice her doing you favors… but not anyone else.
2. She Compliments Your Looks
“You have really sexy biceps. How often do you work out?”
“Hey, I like your shampoo. What brand is it?”
Suddenly you feel very seen physically, and it makes you feel self-conscious… and attractive. Well, that’s intentional, of course. Pay attention to the types of compliments.
She wants you to know that she finds you physically attractive and that she’s paying extra close attention.
3. She Looks At You Then Looks Away
She looks at you when she thinks you’re not looking but when you catch her, she looks away as if to say “it’s your turn to flirt.”
This is a classic way women flirt. They use it because it’s easy and harmless, and yet it works most of the time.
She might even bite her lips or smile right after. It’s a subtle one, that could be hard to miss, but look out for the signs.
4. She Gets Close to Your Friends
You introduced her to your friends a while ago and she latched on to them pretty quickly.
She can claim to be friends with your friends too, and this will help her greatly in trying to flirt with you.
If one friend throws a party, she’ll likely get invited, and that means she can get near you.
And not only that, she can get a lot of info about you from them, too, like how she can catch your attention or what things do you actually like. If she successfully buddies up with your friends, then chances are she’s aced her flirt game.
5. It’s Like You Have A lot of Things in Common
You’re into sci-fi. And she happens to be into it, too!
You like to hang out at a certain bar across the street. And guess what? She does, too.
It might be a coincidence, but it’s most likely not. Instead, she most likely studied you for a while and these similarities are because she tried to be more like someone you’d relate to.
So don’t be surprised if she suddenly asks you to watch that movie you’ve always wanted, or if she invites you to drop by your favorite bar together with her.
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6. She’s A Little Too Nurturing
You can’t help but think every now and then that she’s acting like she’s your mother from how attentive she is with your needs.
She asks you if you’re okay at the smallest sign of distress, and if you tell her that you’re not okay for some reason, she’d try to find ways to make you feel better.
Most women make advances in a loving way. And if you find that she’s too loving and nurturing towards you, well… she’s probably flirting with you.
7. She Asks A lot of Questions
It’s not enough for her that you have short conversations.
She wants to know every detail about you from your favorite cartoon character when you’re five to what you think about the world today.
She wants your convos to last long because simply listening to you feels good. She probably also knows that being interested in you will make you feel good about yourself… and thus, you’ll subconsciously want to be with her, a definite flirting tactic.
8. She Invites You Over to Her Place
Okay, so here’s the thing about girls—they live lives where they always need to be suspicious of the men around them.
And you can’t blame them for it, because while men are busy being afraid that a girl will reject them, women are afraid that a man will attack them.
So when she invites you over to her place, it doesn’t just mean that she wants to flirt with you in private or have a quick lay.
What it means is that she trusts you so much she’s willing to let you inside her safe space.
9. She Wants to Visit Your Place
That same fear that makes women wary about who to invite into their homes also means that they simply aren’t going to visit any random guy’s house.
Even if the two of you are already quite familiar with one another, it still takes an immense amount of trust for her to visit your place.
In fact, it takes a lot more trust for her to visit your place than it does to have you visit hers.
So this is more than just flirting—if she asks to visit your place, she’s trying to tell you that she feels safe around you. And if you see everything else on this list as well, then she’s definitely trying to flirt hard with you.
10. She’s Always Available For You
She’s a busy girl… except when you need her.
This is the case whether it’s something related to work or you’re on the dance floor. She can never say “no” to you.
It seems like she’d drop everything for you, and that’s because she likes you and is probably just waiting for you to make a move.
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11. She’s Everywhere
You’re alone at lunchtime but guess who’s about to enter the cafeteria?
And when you pick up your laundry at the laundromat, she also happens to be there!
You feel like she’s stalking you, and she probably is. Of course, she’s attracted to you and so she’s trying to have more interactions with you.
12. She Remembers The Things You Love
A subtle sign that she’s flirting with you is that she seems to remember everything about you. You once told her that you love Cuban music. So when a Cuban band is performing in your neighborhood, she’s the first to tell you about it.
You also told her your favorite ice cream is vanilla. So she makes sure that’s what you get when you’re out with friends.
Our memories tend to be quite sharp when they involve the people we like. She’s managed to remember these small things about you because she’s interested in you.
13. She Remembers The Things You Hate
Something a bit more important than keeping track of what you like would be remembering what you hate.
If she knows you don’t like the smell of coffee, she’ll take extra care to avoid drinking coffee when you’re around. If she knows you hate talking about work, she’ll try to steer clear of that topic.
She cares for you, so she’d be careful not to say or do anything that would give you bad vibes.
14. She Asks For Your Help
You know she really doesn’t need it but she asks for your help like there’s always an emergency.
This one’s pretty subtle, but she’s just doing it to get closer to you, of course. You can tell this is the case if your interaction results in something else—like if she’s having more fun talking about your personal life than the actual thing she asks your help for.
She might even say that she’d “pay you” for helping her by taking you out to dinner.
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15. She Acts Like a Giddy Teen When You’re Around
We know what this looks like.
She acts giddy the second she sees you, then tries to control herself so it won’t be too obvious.
She’d then fix her hair and put on perfume before she approaches you.
If it’s this obvious, she’s probably been into you for a while now, and she’s willing to do anything just to have you. When a grown woman acts like a giddy teen, it’s a clear flirting signal.
16. She “Accidentally” Touches Your Chest
Guys generally have no issue feeling attracted when they see a woman’s chest. It’s simply sexually attractive, and even women agree.
But something a lot of guys fail to consider is that girls feel the same way towards a guy’s chest. And with how “normal” it is for guys to just bare their chests and not be ashamed about it, no wonder it passes under the radar!
She takes advantage of this by touching your chest time and time again and, while she might apologize and say it’s just an accident, it’s not. This kind of physical touching is an obvious flirting sign that’s hard to miss.
17. It’s Impossible to Annoy Her
You’re a bit of a handful. Sometimes your idea of fun easily gets your friends and colleagues annoyed.
But not her – like, sure, she can act annoyed but you can tell from the way she acts that she really isn’t.
If nothing else, you could swear your annoying quirks actually put a smile on her face. It’s might be subtle at first, but obvious once you spot it.
18. She Shares Her Personal Life
She tells you about her last heartbreak or how she’s been feeling lonely for a while now. She also shares what she does on weekends and maybe a bit of her childhood.
She’s comfortable sharing these intimate things with you. She likes and trusts you enough to open up and be vulnerable with you.
But at the same time, it’s also likely a strategy that she’s using to get closer to you. She’s killing two birds with one stone, really.
19. She’s Not Shy to Talk About Sex
She’s a sexual creature and she isn’t afraid to make you know it.
She tells you about her first time, her second time, and the things she wants done to her. She explains everything in detail and it’s because she wants you to see her as a sexual being.
It’s also her way to gauge your interest. If you cringe because you think it’s TMI, then she knows you’re probably not that interested in her. But if you show interest, then she knows she has a chance with you. So, flirt away!
20. She Gives You Kinky Stuff
Aside from favors, she likes giving you stuff – from a slice of pizza to a geeky shirt.
But what makes this obvious that she’s flirting is that lately, she’s giving you sensual and kinky stuff like underwear with a funny print. Of course she’ll say it’s just for fun but you should know better.
It’s definitely NOT “nothing.” She’s trying to get your attention… by being extra friendly.
21. She’s There To The Rescue
If she knows you need something, she’s readily available to help.
But of course she uses this time to seduce you in her own little ways. She’d get closer to you, touch you here and there, and even whisper something dirty in your ear.
She’d have the courage to be a little obvious with her moves because after all, she’s just there to help you, isn’t she? She has the perfect excuse!
22. She’s Curious About Your Love Life
She’d probably say something like “Argh, dating in the 21st century really sucks, don’t you think?” Of course she will try her best to be subtle.
She wants to know right away because a girl who flirts with you will try to make sure her advances won’t be all for naught.
If she knows you’re already in love with someone else, then she’d stay away (usually). But if she knows you’re available, this will give her the courage to proceed.
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23. She Likes Using Nicknames With You
She’s considerably comfortable calling you cute nicknames, and you are too because you’ve gotten used to it.
But then you have to consider that maybe, just maybe, she’s trying to flirt with you and the only reason why you’ve gotten used to it is because you have been letting her advances fly over your head.
She keeps using these nicknames anyways, just in case that one day you’ll realize what she’s actually trying to say.
24. She Gives You Opportunities To Stalk Her
She’d offhandedly mention her phone number or social contacts. If she’s bold, she might even drop the state or city that she lives in so that you’d have a general idea of where she is.
She would ask your contacts, too, of course. And that’s because she wants to have more opportunities to get to know (and flirt with) each other.
25. She Sends Late-Night Messages
She sends a “Heeeyyyy” message at 11pm. Then she’d go “Can’t sleep?”.
It might be subtle, but you weren’t born yesterday. You know some flirting signs from a woman over text.
There’s just something very intimate and personal about talking to someone deep into the night, and that’s the reason why she sends you messages this late.
Not only is there the presumption that everyone else is (probably) asleep and that the two of you are sharing that time together, it would also mean that she’ll have you in her mind when she sleeps.
And, well, that you’ll have her in your mind, too.
26. She jokes about how hot you are
It’s not always the most obvious, because she’ll probably try to deflect it by putting herself out of the picture… but well, people don’t simply say things out of nowhere.
For example, she might say “geez, you’re so hot you’d burn the whole building down” or she might see someone try flirting with you and she’d go “gosh, look at you! A real casanova!”
See, if she jokes about how hot you are, that’s probably because she actually does think you’re hot.
A couple of times might just be her joshing around, but if it’s consistent… she definitely is trying to get a point across.
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27. She makes sure you can smell her
She leans in close to you when you’re together, making sure you get a whiff of her perfume. And you just know it’s not simply chance, because she does it all the time.
This is because she knows men are attracted to things that smell good, and that you might finally make your move if she always smells nice around you.
She might even be trying to make sure you associate her with that specific perfume so that every time you get a whiff of it, you think of her.
28. She rushes to you for “comfort”
She wastes no time in rushing to you whenever there’s something bothering her and she just needs a little… company.
For example, she might blow up your inbox with messages about how horrible her day had been, and complain about how her coworkers pissed her off. If you’re co-workers, she might go to you when she’s about to break down and ask for a hug.
It’s possible that she really sees you as a friend, but it’s also possible she’s intentionally doing it because it’s a good excuse to be closer to you.
29. She’s interested in everything you have to say
You can rant about your favorite hyper-fixation — sports teams, cars, games, music—and she’d happily listen to you speak.
In fact, she might even ask you to elaborate and tell her more, no matter how interesting or boring the topic might be.
The reason for that is because she finds you interesting, and she wants to get clues on how to win your heart.
30. She looks at you like she wants to kiss you
You swear you could see embers in her eyes when she’s looking at you. It’s almost like she’s just waiting for you to realize what’s up and give her your attention.
She’s enamored by you, and you’re pretty sure that if you just make some small advances, she’d grab the chance to express just how much she likes you.
And, well… she looks at you like she wants to kiss you because she does. But she’s just holding herself back until you step up and kiss her yourself.
Parting Words
As a rule of thumb, it’s good to hold yourself back from assuming a girl is flirting with you unless you’re absolutely sure. Women hate it when men think they’re interested simply because they were being nice.
But if you see a handful of the signs I’ve outlined in this article, then you can be sure that she’s most likely interested in you one way or another and, the more signs are present, the more sure you can be certain that she’s crazy for you and not just flirting 😏.
Have you overlooked any of these flirting signals from a girl?
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